It has become readily apparent to me that we each within us have the power to choose our own destinies, and that those destinies are uniquely of our own - or others, decision making processes.
Within that statement of course lies the possibility that our chosen path, or the path chosen for us can be broken either by ourselves, or by the decisions of others, through no fault of our own.
This of course implies that we have complete free will to make whatever decisions we like at any point in time, and that God isn't always going to step in to stop us - or others from making detrimental decisions either for ourselves or other people.
The world we have created now is the result of all the collective decisions made by each and every person who has ever lived until now, and we are all collectively responsible for each and every decision that we make as it impacts ourselves or others.
Not everything that happens in life is somehow 'meant to be', or 'fate', or God's will. It's all too easy to fall into the trap of believing that somehow everything that happens was God's will, or that He wanted it to happen that way. If that were the case then Jesus would not have told us to pray that 'God's will be done in earth, as it is in heaven', implying of course that God's will is not always done on earth as it is in heaven!
People can and do muck up God's plans for either themselves or other people! That's just the way the world is and the nature of good vs. evil and the power to choose.
The Bible clearly indicates that God has foreordained or predestined a plan for our lives:
"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them." - Ephesians 2:10
"Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will," - Ephesians 1:5
So why does God allow his will or his plan for someone's life to be ruined? Because he is good and graceful enough to allow us our own free will and the power to choose. Is it His will that His will is broken for that person's life? Not at all, but He allows it anyway for the time being.
Do I believe that someone can lose their salvation? Not if they are truly saved.
"For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." - Romans 8:38-39
"And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand." - John 10:28
Is it God's will that someone is raped or murdered or have some other atrocity occur to them? I don't believe so, but he allows it anyway.
"Let both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather ye together first the tares, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the wheat into my barn." - Matthew 13:30
Look at what happened to Moses when God wanted him to lead the Jews into Israel and the promised land. Because Moses disobeyed God, he wasn't allowed to set foot in Israel, and later died. This wasn't God's original plan or will for Moses or his life, but because he didn't do something that he was supposed to do, it had ramifications for the people of Israel and for Moses himself. [Deuteronomy 32:51-52]
There is a ripple effect that occurs from each and every decision that we make - both for good or evil. That is why we have the power to choose, to make manifest who we are from the inside out!
"Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit." - Matthew 12:33